thecanessacorner

http://knj2.freebb3.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=50

As a sidenote, why is Paszkiewicz refusing to respond to anything else I have written?

Accepting the past is mentally healthy. After all, we can't change it, and acceptance helps us move on. What we can change are our response, our attitude and our way of living.

Perversely, pain can help us do that, but it has nothing to do with it being planned or ordained. Pain can shake us up, and induce us to change, but if we had been mindful we could have done the same thing all along.

If I look honestly at who suffers, and when, there's no pattern suggesting that it fits any pre-designed purpose. Taking acceptance that far is a form of superstitious and magical thinking, which is unnecessary and harmful. I've seen people deal with both physical and spiritual pain beautifully by just accepting it without necessarily attributing it to anything in particular.